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"You can't stop the wave, but you can learn to swim." --(John Kabat Zinn) So let's start swimming... Back in the days when I was home and naive before life drifted me out of my comfort zone, I always relate happiness to periods  when have something to eat; or times when we have families and friends around. Knowing too well that they will do everything possible to make us smile. Had I known? Of course, there was more to what I knew back then. And I realised much more later in life. The English lexicon will define Happiness as an emotional feeling of joy, satisfaction contentment and fulfilment. Eventhough there are thousand more definitions to happiness depending on schools of thought, it is important to understand that happiness is deeper than in meaning than just mere laughters. Happiness, to me, is a state of mind. It is a function of what you inherently feel in your subconsciousness. When you make a deep sigh, what do you feel? freedom or commotions? Do...

All the dreams in the world mean nothing if you can't pursue them.  Hello readers! Your girl is back again like she never left. The wait is over and thanks for the encouragement so far. I apologize for my inconsistency, I promise to do better. I bring to you another intriguing topic. I can't wait to read your views too. Let's talk about 'the purpose of existence'. What is the reason why something exists? If to exist means to set aims, intentions and goals for oneself. Therefore, one's purpose in life is connected to the reason one exists. But it goes beyond just your daily responsibilities.  Don’t allow anyone to push you too hard till you do what is outside of your purpose. It will seem as though one's denying humanity the pleasure it deserves. Funny enough, your purpose might not align with where you are and what you are doing presently. It takes a lot of conscious effort and observation to know what you are made for. For instance, I am a stude...

Life is though and so you are darling. Hello reader, I wrote this for you, hoping you will be a female and it will resonates through the core of your being and believing if you are male, you will make a good use of this to appreciate every woman you come in contact with in your daily activities. To commemorate the International women's day, I looked back and think about all the women I have come in contact with since the last one year and how much efforts they put everyday to challenge the status quo. The International women's day holds every 8th of March to celebrate women's achievement and raise awareness about women's quality and the theme for the year is choosing to challenge. I obviously will not be able to recollect all this wonder woman but I will remember the memories I had with each of them. The most important thing a woman can do is expanding the other's sense of possibility, I am here to make emphasis on the word "possibility"- m...

In the midst of sadness and loss, create a ready to fight back mentality so you can soar above it all but not without gratitude. Happy New month Famz, I hope I am meeting you well. Finally, the year is moving 🤩. And I am sorry to have kept you waiting for this long. There are lots of things on my mind; like thoughts that ain't fully processed yet. Plus, we are back to school. Academic activities are top notch.  But now that we are here, let's discuss 'gratitude'. One way or the other, we are all familiar with the word 'GRATITUDE' but what more can we say about it? Especially when we are in doubt or in crisis. Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; the readiness to show appreciation and to return kindness. On the other hand, if you are not in full harmony with your being, I mean if you consider life to be hard on you and your faith at stake, you might find it very hard to be grateful. And that's because your heart isn't in alignment with...

Criticism is inevitable. Either way, you will always find yourself up in the mess. Stop being too quick to respond in defence. Just be you and stay focused.  Hello to my beautiful readers. If it's your first time here; welcome! I hope you find this worthy. You can as well check our previous posts to have a feel of what our discussions are like. Perfectionism is an act where one unwilling to settle for anything that is not perfect. He or she does not meet highly extremely standards. In psychology, perfectionism is a personality trait characterized by“striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others' evaluations.” To a perfectionist, anything that’s less than perfect is unacceptable. We all thrive to be perfect. So you must have been nodding; affirming the fact that you are a perfectionist.  But WAIT! Study this charts below and thick as appropriate.  You a...

Perhaps till we celebrate more years, 2020 remained the most talked about and eventful year. Hello darling! Happy new year, may this new year comes along with new tidings and I hope you are entering the new year with full positive energy and faith as always. Keep your hope alive beloved, remember I love you. I promised in my last post to publish the lessons I learnt in 2020 as my next post and here you go. Meanwhile, I found it a little bit hard to compile this, unless it comes up in a conversation, I can hardly remember some. Here goes nothing, you might want to add, feel free by dropping them in the comments. *  Make wishes, but be moderate about it, don't make it hard on your self. *  Have principles and follow them. *  It's normal to cut people off. *  It's normal for people to reach out to you when they want to seek your help. *  Some memories are not meant to hold on to. *  If you have what it takes, treat yourself right, doesn't have to b...

'Growing doesn't come easy. And be assured that whatever condition we find ourselves it's just a phase'  A friend said this to me while going through one of the phases in my 2020 journey. I have kept it in mind that long and so I've decided to share the trick with you. Warmest regards to you all for being amazing. Yes! You all are amazing. And you made my 2020 better. 2020 has been a roller coaster of events and activities. Like a popular meme flying round already, we can wittily conclude that this year had 6 months; January, February, Lockdown, Endsars, November and December. And that's hilariously nothing but the truth. Life is generally built like a roller coaster. Sometimes it turns and reveals the bad sides and sometimes if rolls over to reveal the good (in a twinkle of an eye). What should always keep us going is believe that the good will always come no matter how long it will take. We hope for the best to come always.  And what brings this ho...