To the friendship of past, present and yet to be

Hi guys! It's been a moment. I trust I meet you well yet again. So long a time; yeah I know. Please, pardon my inconsistency. Your girl got a little too busy. The past months have been filled with final year exams and other shenanigans. 

I signed out in February guys! (Smiles) And I haven't been more fulfilled. I should be counting down to convocation day now but ASUU and FG are doing the best thing they know how to do. All plans have been forced to hold again and it is honestly getting to me. Some you guys can relate too (as undergraduates), I know. God pass them. Our victory dance is coming soon. 

In this post, I'd like to talk about friendship. Yeah... Shout out to friends who had shown me genuine love in the past and present. Shout out to the ones I will meet in the future too. Shout out to you too. You rock. 🤝

Those that know me know how deliberate I am about friendship. I also think we don't talk about friendship enough in this part of the world. Friends come and go but they are important parts of our life. As common as the word may sound, we need to clearly define the term. This is a piece of advice for everyone before I continue. Let's normalize refering to some people as acquaintances rather than friend to draw the boundary in our life. People need to know where they belong. Trust me, it will save you unnecessary headaches and heartbreaks.

To start with, one can meet someone within a short period and the person will mean so much than someone you’ve known all your life. And by this, I mean friends that leave footprints in your heart and not just your life. Such a person contributes to your personal development and well being. 

From experience, life slapped me (yet again) a few weeks ago and the love I received from my friends was something to die for. In fact, mentioning it now brings back emotions. Truly, if friendship comes with price tags, I certainly wouldn't be able to afford these set of friends.

There is also something about meeting strangers and them becoming your soul buddies later on. You end up sharing every detail of your life with them; the emotional attachment, the fact that you know this individual got you any day and any time. If that's not beautiful, I don't know what else is.

To my friends who'd go any length to put a smile on my face, those who have one way or the other lit up every goddamn dark room I have ever entered, those who (day after day) make me feel like I'm a big thing on earth, this is for you:

       I am grateful for the love and time you give;

       For the love of humanity,

       For the goodness of your soul,

       And for doing life with me.

    

       You are a giver, a saver, and a rockstar too

       You'all are down to earth.

However, In the last few years, I've fallen out with quite several friends. But honestly, I have no regrets. I don't believe in cutting people off but I don't subscribe to keeping up with intimidation, disrespect from supposed friends. I am not good at lowering my expectations either. I want the same energy I give. I want the same level of love I give. If I'd cross mountains for you and you wouldn't move an inch for me, I don't know what we are doing. I call friends in this category 'users'. 

I'm majorly not interested in any friendship that doesn't add anything to me or the one that make me look insane when I table my wants and expectations.

I understand that we all are brought up differently. We also have different exposures. I also believe being thoughtful to do what's expected of you is a bare minimum. I believe expecting much from people you'd do anything for isn't too much to ask for. I wouldn't advise anyone to lower their expectations or be the bigger person anyways. Life is too fleeting to spend it with people who are not into you as much as you are into them..

So my dear friend, I hope I am not drifting away already... Lol. It's just the wave of the moment washing us apart. (Smiles). We all are swimming but in different directions. Where life may take us is through a whirlwind that overwhelms. I pray we don't sink.

I do hope and wish that the tides of life bring us together again. Maybe in the future, when the wave becomes silent, we'd meet on the island. And if you ever feel the need to reach out, my doors aren't totally shut. (Winks). 

And for you:

      If we don't talk, 

      It doesn't matter.

      I truly wish you well

  

     If I have ever made you cry,

     I'm truly sorry.

     If I ever hurt you,

     Kindly accept my apology.

     I might have been so insensitive a few times too.

     But the truth is:

     I don't mean to.

     I truly wish you well 

     And I cherish all the moments and memories. 

Thank you for being a great part of my life.

Be back soon.

With Love, Teni❤