THE PARTNER WE NEED 2 (Emotional partner)

Romantic relationship is a must for everyone at a point in life. The need for someone to care for and be accountable to can't be overemphasized. However, it comes with so much learning, knowledge and discernment.

Warmest greetings to my amazing readers. I trust you to be good as usual. In my last post, we discussed about the categories of partners we need in life which include academic, religious, social,  and emotional partner.

Light was shed on the first three while the last was withheld. Apologies for taking too long to update as promised. Be rest assured that it's worth the wait. 

The purpose of this post is to write explicitly on emotional/love partnership. An emotional partner is someone who you share a common emotional feeling with. Someone whom you entrust yourself to. Someone that you decide to be with forever or for a particular point in time.

We go into emotional partnership to also to seek companionship from an opposite gender. The focal point here is 'Love'. It is the area which you invest all your energy. In essence, in this type of relationship, love is a soul determiner. It determines how passionately you put effort to making it work. Indeed, love is profound feeling of trust.

Believe you me, we all need someone to put all of ourselves into. Someone to care for and get same in return; someone to narrate our daily ordeal to, someone to navigate through life with.

When you feel the need for this, then you need an emotional partner.

As an individual, the type of emotional partners we should seek should possess qualities that completes us. He or she must: 

1. Be a source of inspiration: infusing positivity into your mind and spirit.

2. Be real and genuine: speaks sternly, put us straight rather than capping.

3. Be committed: have a deep feeling which encompasses a whole spectrum of emotions. 

4. Be compassionate: feel for what you share more than with other people.

5. Be upfront about their baggage: this will enable you to know him/her well. The possibility of them not keeping things away from you. To support him/her You will know where to pick up from. 

6. Accept you: he/she must accept you with your baggage and all that's yours. He/she should accept the positive side and be able to manage the other end too. 

7. Possess few qualities or activities in common: So you can easily pick conversations and interests from here. It may not be literally everything though. 

8. Share your dreams and goals: this should align so as to avoid conflict against differences.

9. Not be too imposing: someone who wouldn't impose their ideas, beliefs and opinions on you. There should be room for reviews. 

However, as far as we want to be in love, we need to understand what love is. We need to understand every indebth meanings that comes with telling someone we love them. Finding someone who would  love you, respect you and treat you right is not a rocket science and there is no manual to it. You just have to build your setup and become irresistible.

When you tell someone you love them, it means you accept them for who they are and that you are ready to help them become a better version of themselves. This means you do not want to change them to someone they are not and that you are ready to be there for them through the worst of times. If at all there is need, you are ready to go through a healing process with them.

On the other hand, there are more to emotional affair than just love. Love is never enough and staying in love is not as easy as falling in love. I still don't understand how our parents manage to be successfully married and build a family without communicating many of this issues. What I mean is that there are some level of compatibility you have to negotiate to keep your emotional flames burning.

 Some of these include:

A. Relationship/ emotional management: awareness of other person's emotional state, by this you will be able to manage your interaction.

B. love languages: ways we represent loves to ourselves and others around us.

C. Deal breakers: what could cause your relationship to fail

D. Autonomy: Partners often needs to share interests, activities, and other aspects of daily life.

You will gradually notice you’re becoming more of a unit as you grow closer.

However, different interest could fuel curiosity about each other which could strengthen the relationship.

E. Physical intimacy: quality time to communicate must be available to sustain the affair.

F. Willingness: Readiness to make sacrifice to satisfy the need of the other person. 

“The only way you can fully enjoy the love in your life is to choose to make something else more important in your life than love." - - - Mark Manson.

Before I go, the main three words that remains Undefeatable to having a successful and healthy emotional affair are UNDERSTANDING, TRUST and RESPECT

Yours in love,

Teni❤