THE PARTNERS WE NEED

Many of the relationship you have been building in life would have been based on values and measured according to the metrics you have set. Whether or not you made the right choices is a different story entirely. 

Well, it's a good way to start today's topic. Good day to the vast readers of my blog. I hope this isn't your first time reading. If so, thank for coming. I plan to make you come back for more and I really do hope I don't disappoint. 

The couple of weeks have been very tensed in the country so far. How are we all holding up?

I Suppose we are all better now. A break from the whole issue was necessary. It wasn't as easy as we thought. Everyone's mental health was greatly tested and for many of us with personal issues conjoined, our mental health was in shambles. Well, I could say I am better now and I trust that everyone else is too. Please keep staying safe and out of troubles. 

I recently got involved in a project discussion convened by a friend of mine, Element. We had a long discussion on a topic and with his permission, I am allowed to share and give a broad insight to it. The topic is one of those I have had on my draft (on notepad) for a long time now. What a coincidence that I have to bring it out this way 🤭. Let's get into it. 

To start with, who is 'a partner'? A partner necessarily need not be someone you are in an emotional relationship with. A partner could be someone you regularly encounter in your day to day activities. To expatiate further, a Partner can be an associate or companion of yours who happens to be on the same path with you on the same goal. 

The people you choose as your companion is a reflection of who you are and what other people see you to be. A partner is a person who you shares or associate with in some action or endeavor. Note the words 'sharer; associate'. 

Partners are glued together to face the heavy loads of challenges that may come their way in pursuit of their common goal. So to the real deal, Life doesn't always introduce you to the people you want to meet but most times get you in touch with people you need to meet. On the other hand, life can be so funny to make you cross path with people you do not necessarily like or want to talk to.

The criteria to choosing partners you need on your journey should then be devoid of unnecessary sentiments. It should probably be independent of ethnicity, race, gender, age, and sometimes faith. This as well can be considered as criteria we set for people we want to regard to as partners.

What I'm saying is: sometimes you have to look beyond the ethnic, gender, and sometimes faith boundaries. Depending on the purpose of the partnership, you can overlook some things to choose your partner. The basic requirement in any relationship is being truthful to one another/each other so as to achieve mutual development.

There are different types of partnerships. We have the Academic, Business, Social, Religious and emotional/life partner.

1. Academic partner: It is a known fact that we are into academics to learn and to succeed. So you will all agree with me that having an academic partner is very important to all students.

As a student, the kind of partners you need to succeed would be someone:

-Who has the same goal as you.

-that helps your academic stability.

-that would be on the same pace as you, especially for assimilation.

-Someone that knows the right time for everything.

To achieve this, evaluate yourself; know your flaws and weaknesses as regards academics. You might need to figure that of your partner too before you decide on compatibility.

2. Business partner: To be a successful business owner or a successful employee working for a business owner, you need a good and reliable business partner too. The type of business companion you keep is also a determinant of the outcome of your work. They will either help you to become better at what you do or help you become stagnant or worse. I am sure you wouldn't want to fall under the latter. Don't forget to be a good partner to your colleagues at work too.

Here  is what you could look up to in a potential business partner:

-Honesty and loyalty.

-Hardworking and time conscious.

-Committed and goal oriented.

-Focused, purposeful and impactful. 

3. Social partner: I personally do not believe one's life is complete without socializing. You need to mingle and partake in societal activities at some certain points in your lives. Like the saying goes: all work without play makes Jack a dull boy. You are the jack in this context.

Then, the need for a social partner can't be overemphasized. You need that someone you can call and count on. Your social partner should:

-Have purpose in life so that he/she won't lead to away and astray.

-Must be responsible financially so that you can only spend money on what that matters.

4. Religious partners: I think everyone in life should have a religious partner. The need for beliefs and God's intervention in our lives can't be overemphasized. We need someone to help us try more; to encourage and inspire us to do better. Someone that will make us dwell on the path of the Almighty. We face challenges as individuals. God occasionally tests our belief. Your religious partner here is also a determinant of how you choose to go about the challenge. He/she must be:

-Loyal to human and God Almighty.

-Generous.

-Religiously inclined.

Let me stop here for now. Trust that I will bring you the last one, Emotional and Life Partner, as single blog post on its own. Stay tuned and have a good week.

But before we go, can I please take you through a self awareness and evaluation questionnaire? Ok then, take this.

-A moth or a butterfly, which one are you?

-What do you do or who do you call when you meet with circumstances you have never envisaged?

-What kind of person are you to the people around you?

-What directions are your friends/partners taking you through?

-Would you rather smooth your path with noble friends/partners today?

-Who is creating your world? 

- yourself or public opinions?

-Is your favourite letter 'I' or 'They' ?

As individuals,  I urge us all to find honest answers to the questions above and keep the answers in mind.

Thanks for reading.

With love,

Teni❤