THE END OF US

Either we like it or not, there is always an end for all the occurrence in our lives. That's just a bitter reality and the earlier we accept, the lower our expectations.

Warmest greetings to my alluring readers. I hope I am meeting you well. Remember, most times you are powerless to the situations and circumstances around you. But don't stop trying harder.

Every relationship in life will certainly have an end.

Acquaintance; friendship, family, love affair, all of it will come to an end.

Wether through fights, separation or death, their is always an end. I pray we have long lasting relationships with those that have something genuine for us.

Break ups from good relationships can be very weakening. I know It's not easy to forget those good moments. We might carry such feelings for weeks after before we get back normal again. Why do you even care so much about a relationship that we know would end someday?

Those nostalgic feeling when you see pictures that remind you those special moments, or a sharp reminder of your favourite hangout spot with that person. It could even be a chat with an old friend or you listening to songs you once grooved together.

There are a lots of mixed emotion that comes with such situations and the truth is that: you can't possibly help it. I mean you can't even help the circumstances that leads to the end of you. But the good news is that: we can control it. 

When such happens, try to reach out to the person if you can. And if you can't, pray that the almighty be with them. 

I understand how difficult separation might be, but (let's face it) it's normal. Whether you are the toxic one or vice-versa, something must end the relationship and must learn to move on from it. Separation and/or Rejection is equally important and crucial. Sometimes, it could be the spark that the relationship needs to bond better. While sometimes, it is for the good of both parties. 

Whether we like it or not, some separations are for the better. We need to let go of relationships that's not beneficial to our growth or mental health.

It's kind of funny how people are so much of importance to us that we can't even imagine them not existing in our lives. If such comes as a result of death, then it's outrightly beyond us. We can't challenge damage done by nature.

Moreover, this is me reminding you that END is part of our growth and development process.

Just like we will have to learn-relearn-unlearn sometimes. We are meant to meet and depart too. What we do in and out of those moments, goes a long in defining our growth. 

Apparently, there are a lot of hacks that can help out in building a lasting relationship. Trust me to always give you as always... 

Here goes nothing:

--Lower your Expectations: the lower you do, the lesser you hurt.

--Differentiate between Friends and Acquaintances: normalize using acquaintance for some set of people.

--Be Careful about Who you Confide in: I know we all need someone to talk to but be watchful.

--Life is responsible for the problems it throws at you, you are responsible from the choices you made - dig that.

--Do Not Follow the Crowd: have a say for yourself.

--Stop the Act of Giving a Fuck Everytime: doesn't mean you should ignore important messages life passes at you.

--Show People You Care and want them: the end might be near.

--Normalize Having Trust Issues: saves you from heartbreak.

--Differentiate between Having Relationship Willingly or Voluntarily.

--It's advisable to be aware of emotional state of people around you before giving critiques: remember you can be toxic too

--Let their be clarity when you pass message to your group of friends: even if you have to end, it doesn't have to come with hatred.

--Conflict management is a necessity: you might be stucked in between.

I will work on more topics for elaboration. Do not forget to tell someone about my blog today.

Remember, part of the prices we pay in life is dealing with people we don't necessarily like. Just be YOU.

Yours always

Teni❤