THE LOVE WE ALL IMAGINE

A wonderful and glorious morning to my harmonious reader and family. Your girl is here again with another interesting discussion. Life is very amazing. Make sure to enjoy every bit of it. To everyone who has made it this far, this is for you...

Before we go ahead with today's discussion, let's ask ourselves a very important question: What is LOVE? Personally, I sometimes imagine if truly LOVE exists. What if it's actually an illusion? What if the word was just something coined out of some little experience of the ones before us? So many thoughts keep running through my mind. 

While writing this, so I won't come and fall your hands here with my cooked up interpretations, I check my English lexicon for the meaning of the word. According to the dictionary, LOVE is an intense feeling of attention and attraction. A great interest and pleasure in something. A profound feeling of trust, care and security.

Chai! See big big grammar. See oyibo wey I see o. Lol. But joke aside, isn't it funny how we have all managed to deviate from real meaning of love in our practice?

How come you tell people you love them without feeling absolutely anything for them? How come we fake affections these days just because of material things? How do you sound so sweet just because you want to get down and see beneath? How? Tell me why? 

The definition of love in the world of today have basically been bastardised to include:

-Dates

-Attention

-Financial help

-and Sex

However, love goes beyond these. It rather illustrates:

-Sacrifice

-Loyalty

-Good intentions

-Encouragement

-and Trust

Love means knowing that no matter what, you have someone to count on. It’s unconditional and makes you feel good on the inside. You can trust the person you love and are comfortable around them. 

Telling people you love them means you accept them for who they are without questioning their personality; that you will be with them through the worst of times too.

Forging ahead, no one would deny the fact that he or she is one way or the other, fantasizing a love life (either with a lover or an imaginary partner). Signify if otherwise and I will return your data. It's has become the everyday culture. We are all in this together. It's actually not a problem though. It's normal for every other person to have wants and desires. But the question is about how we go about it. Do we just lust or love? 

We create too much fantasies in our heads. We imagine things that sometimes makes us to loose focus. We fill our heads with to much fairytale and adventure that we forget we are not in a movie. Most of us will  posts images with funny captions like *mood* 

Moi dear, the truth is: you might never be in that situation till the end of time. It may be very hard to believe. I also learnt that God creates a special partner for every soul in heaven. He creates another to be it's special mate and when once we get to the earth, our souls begin to long for each other.

I think that radiates through our imagination too. Like I said, we live in too much fantasies. We want to feel the kind of butterflies we feel in our bellies while watching movies. We forget that love goes beyond the scripts we see in movies. We all want a picture perfect love. We even have designed our 'specs' in our minds. But what if your spec isn't God's spec for you?

We loose potential partners sometimes in our desperate desire for some particular qualities and speculations. This point can be attested to by people who have or are currently experiencing it. I mean people who have ended up with the wrong partners they wouldn't even have thought about. When you fall in love wrongly, bet you will forget the specs and face reality. 

What I am saying is in essence is not that we shouldn't have specs but let not put too much priority on them. Let's be flexible with our goals in this aspect. It's nice to have wants but being too picky and setting too much standard wouldn't help.

Do you even know if meet up to the standard of the person you desire too? We all know we can't get all the qualities a 100% perfect. I am not telling you to settle for less either.

Truth be told, relationships are not always rosy. It's far from sweet stories on TV and internet. We can't overemphasize the need for someone whose intention for us will be really good and true; A person who chooses to love us all through, the one that's always at our beck and call. As much as we all want this, do not forget to commit it to God's hands. May God bless us all with the one for us.

Thanks for reading.

With love,

Teni❤